Random Ramblings is the beginning of a little series, where I want to share random thoughts on things that happen to me during the day or stuff that just crosses my mind.
Now let’s begin with #1: Homeless Man
I’ve just returned from a one hour walk with my dogs. It’s wet and cold outside and I really didn’t want to spend more time than necessary outside the warmth of my bed on that gloomy Sunday.
As I entered the Kaserne Areal (It’s a little park, where a lot of people go to let their dogs run a bit) I came across one woman who’s almost always there. She is very friendly but she has definitely seen better days. You almost always see her with a can of beer in her hand and I’ve seen her falling apart little by little over the last few years. But she still seems okay enough.
With her was a homeless man who has built a little shelter for himself. Cardboard boxes flat to use as mattress, covered by a sleeping bag, surrounded by his stuff in different bags. Fortunately the place was roofed since it was in the middle of a passage way. After greeting me she asked me if I could spare a few coins for her friend, so he could get something to eat. Since I felt for that guy I gave him 10 Swiss franks, which is more than you’d normally give to someone who’s begging for money. I told him he should get something warm to eat, since it’s cold and he needs to warm up. Both were more than grateful, so I went on to do my usual round with the dogs.
On my way back home I could see that the woman had left and the man was still there. I passed by him wishing him a good day as he asked me to stop:
“Excuse me…but can you afford to give away money? Just like that?”
“Actually no, I can’t. I don’t have plenty but I do have a roof over my head. A beautiful home and a great job. I’m grateful for that. And even if I’m poor for Swiss standards, I still have more than you. You need it way more than I do.”
“But it’s too much. I want to give it back. Even if you have a home – you still need to eat and pay your bills.”
“Yes, but I’ll eat, no worries. Please take it, I want you to have a warm meal.”
“The other woman helped… Now I have 30 franks!”
“That’s amazing! Good for you!”
“Yes, but..good for me. But what about you?”
“It’s absolutely fine. Believe me. Don’t think too much about it. I believe that whatever good or bad things one does, it always comes back in some form – maybe not money. But that’s ok. I want you to have it, ’cause I don’t feel like I’m missing anything.”
“I always do that…think too much. I need to work on that. Thank you so much. You are a very warm-hearted person. Thank you.”
“I hope life will turn around for you very soon.”
“It always does….there are always ups to the downs.”
“Please enjoy it without feeling bad, will you?”
“I will. Thank you”
After this conversation I went on home with tears in my eyes. I don’t know that mans story. I don’t know why he ended up in the streets. But all I could see was a decent human being having the hardest time. But he still manages to think of others and to share a smile.
I know that oftentimes the people who have less are the ones to give even more. This is not news to me. But still…. it’s just so damn touching to meet such a beautiful soul.
I hope we all find it in our hearts to respect people we don’t know, especially the less fortunate ones, since we have no idea what happened to them.
And you know what? Let’s not just care about them during holiday season. Everybody seems to be so charitable during christmas time but these people are out there 365 days a year.
I started this blog so eagerly. I’m still very passionate about writing down my thoughts from time to time, but I seem to have lost the drive a bit – for the moment.
I feel like I’m in the middle of a transformation. Life itself is transforming all the time I guess, but I feel like having earned enough experience points to level up. Gamers will know what I mean by that 😉
I see a lot of bloggers and vloggers document every step they take. I find it quite interesting and I think it’s great if you’re able to concentrate on many things at the same time. Like being something and documenting it at the same time.
I’m just not like that.
At the moment I’m all about minimalism. I’m decluttering my home, getting rid of a lot of things step by step. My wardrobe’s down to a few items and I took over 27o CDs, 180 DVDs, 20 Vinyl to a second hand dealer.
But you won’t find any photos or documentations of that process here. Why? I just couldn’t care less about sharing this right now. Not because it’s not exciting, but just because I’m living it in the moment at the moment and I don’t feel like holding on to the process, I just want to live through it. Maybe I’m just lazy. Who knows.
There will be blog entries about my findings and learnings living through that process. But until then I’ll just be in it.
I’ll be back.
Oh, this topic gets me going, so be prepared for a lot of text.
I am very confused by how much turmoil a two-pieced bathing suit can cause.
But for those who do not know what a burkini is, let me explain it to you: It’s a fullbody bathing suit worn by muslimas, so they can enjoy themselves at the beach and in the water. Period. It’s not a war announcement and they don’t wear it so they can hide bombs underneath it. There are quite a few idiotic arguments against the burkini out there, which I’m going to dismantle right now, you can thank me later.
You are in MY country now!
You’re in my country now, so wear what we wear. If I have to hide my body in your country, you have to wear a bikini in ours. How I love this argument. It’s like telling a child to stop hitting his brother and the child answers: “But he hit me first!!”
First of all: Grow up. Don’t get me wrong, I love to be childish from time to time, and a lot of grown-up things really annoy me – but this here is the exact moment to leave your diapers behind and stop being a selfish dick.
There is a big difference between us wearing more modest clothes in islamic countries and expecting them to leave certain things like the hijab or the burkini behind. For most of us it’s really not a big deal to put on another sweater or a longer dress, when we’re visiting places outside our hotel area. We just do it (Well most of us. The things I’ve seen some tourists do…). That’s because we don’t have to give up anything of great value to us. Yes, we’re annoyed that we can’t show off our new beautiful top and maybe we feel a little restricted for a few hours. But expecting a hijabi woman to leave her clothes behind is the same as expecting her to abandon her beliefs. It’s in her core values. So stop comparing these two things. It makes no sense.
The last time I checked feminism was about empowering women. So if you tell a practicing muslima to abandon her beliefs, you strip her of her own power to decide who she wants to be. You might believe that no woman wants to hide her beauty and that all women want to look and behave like we westerners do. Well, let me burst your bubble: All women do not want to be like we are in the western world. Believe it or not, not every muslima is forced into wearing a hijab or a burkini. Many women choose to do so. And not even because they’re brainwashed. By trying to “liberate” those women you actually patronize them. I thought you wanted them to be free? So, let them be free to do what they want for God’s sake.
There are a LOT of great youtube videos on women choosing to wear the hijab. For now, I’d like to share Attya Lattifs – A Feminist Choice to wear the Hijab
I am not ignoring the fact, that there are indeed women who do not choose to live this way. And there are countries who oppress their women and don’t give them any choices to do anything. Those are the places that kind of feminism is needed. Not in our western countries, where you can do whatever you like as a muslim woman.
But what about those muslimas in our country, who are oppressed by the patriarchy of their family? Yes, they exist too. But we don’t help them by banning them from the beaches or the public baths. Because that’s exactly what we do, if we ban the burkinis. Because we are banning the only option for them to go to those places. We are not liberating them, we’re sending them back home. I thought we wanted them to integrate into our lives? Well, that’s not gonna happen, when they’re imprisoned in their homes.
That’s a really popular one. Many public baths in europe banned the burkini because of some ridiculous concerns regarding hygiene. I’m glad that several health departments assured that there are no hygiene problems whatsoever. I feel like they are just searching for excuses to not let “those people” in. There have been cases where women “got caught” wearing more layers of fabric beneath the burkini, which is a safety hazard. But I’ve seen a lot of boys wearing boxers beneath their swimming trunks too – so it’s not a burkini problem, it’s a people problem.
Just let them be. Let these women wear whatever the fuck they want. Don’t patronize them, don’t pity them. And if you really want to know more about why a woman would wear that kind of clothing, go ahead and ask her! Most of them will be happy to talk to you and some will be annoyed because they have to defend themselves everyday. But if you show real interest, I’m pretty sure they will open up to you as well.
I welcome myself to the blogging world. It took me a while to hop on this train but you know what? I have a lot to say! As a biracial, polyamorous, pansexual, graysexual, vegan woman, I know a thing or two about standing my ground. But this is not only about me stating my many opinions.
It’s about challenging our ideas and beliefs we’ve known to be true our entire lives. Things like milk is healthy, jealousy is a sign of love, animals don’t have emotions and a lot of other nonsense have been planted into our heads. Conditioning and programming made many of us into pretty lazy and frightened fucks. If we’re unfamiliar with something, we tend to ignore it, be afraid of it or even hate it. Why? Because many of us never learned how to deal with feeling uncomfortable. We’re spoilt. Rotten apples to be honest.
Let’s unspoil our minds! Let’s try to look beyond our ideas of what we thought is the only truth. And this is exactly what I’m doing with this blog. I’ll blog about random topics, which have one thing in common: It’s worth to think, write and talk about them.
I’m looking forward to everything I’ll be sharing with you and everything you want to share with me. Cheers to new beginnings and challenging ourselves and each other!