That is one of the first questions my mum asked me after telling her I was polyamorous. No mum, I’m not a whore. Not even close to it. You can relax now.
I had to explain the whole concept to her – a traditional muslim woman. By now she knows I’m a bit strange but she loves me for it in her own weird way. Love you too mum!
But back to the topic of polyamory. Let’s see how Wikipedia describes it:
“Polyamory (from Greek πολύ poly, “many, several”, and Latin amor, “love“) is the practice of, or desire for, intimate relationships where individuals may have more than one partner, with the knowledge and consent of all partners. It has been described as “consensual, ethical, and responsible non-monogamy“. The term should not be confused with polysexuality (attraction towards multiple genders or sexes).“
Wiki, you nailed it once again. Imagine being in a loving relationship. You trust each other, love each other, are intimate and do all the things couples do. Now imagine this multiple times. Boom: You have Polyamory. No, wait. This could also be cheating. But what’s the difference? Honesty and consent. There are as many types of polyamorous relationship as there are types of monogamous relationships but they all have these two things in common.
I am married to a wonderful man. He is the apple of my eye, the sun to my moon, the ketchup to my fries… well, you get it. Fact is, I love him very dearly. But we’re not monogamous. We both date other people from time to time and are even open to new relationships.
We dream of a big poly family. Several partners, lovers and close friends who share their life together and even raise children together. But we’re not actively searching for it: Go with the flow is the way to live for us. At the moment it’s only us two in our relationship. But that doesn’t make us less poly. Even ‘though my mum wished we weren’t, but she’s handling it quite well by ignoring it.
I’m going to do a few posts about polyamory in the future. Explaining different relationship constellations, following what’s happening in the media, share some experiences and do some random rambling. I’m looking forward to be as poly as I can.
For now, I’d like to end with a great little comic by Kimchi Cuddles – please visit her page and give her some love: She’s the best!